It feels like there is no way to leave this awful Waiting Place.
The country was notified that four bodies would be released on Thursday – Shiri Bibas and her children, baby Kfir and toddler Ariel, and 84-year-old Oded Lifshitz.
Yarden, Shiri’s husband and father to Kfir and Ariel, was released a few weeks ago after having suffered in Gaza for 484 days wondering if his family was alive. Yocheved, Oded’s wife, had been released in November 2023 and waited to hear news of her husband. Along with the Bibas and Lifshitz families, we waited for the return of these innocents so they could have a dignified burial.*
The country waited as the coffins passed through the cynical and horrible “ceremony” orchestrated by Hamas to transfer the bodies to the Red Cross, who signed for them in another ridiculous “ceremony,” to finally transfer these innocents to the IDF to bring them home.
The propaganda-covered coffins had to be checked first for explosives. The coffins were locked, and the keys provided did not open the locks. Along with the bodies, Hamas stuffed the coffins with more propaganda material.
And then we waited for DNA confirmation. Oded was confirmed. The children were confirmed. But the person in the fourth coffin was not Shiri.
IT WAS NOT HER.
For a moment, I wondered if there was any hope that she could be alive by some miracle. Then the country held its collective breath – could this be a big enough breach of protocol to shatter the ceasefire? What about the six live hostages that were to come out on Saturday?
And so we waited.
As we were waiting and wondering, three bus bombs went off in Bat Yam, and only by some kind of divine intervention, no one was killed or injured. Two unexploded bombs were also found. And now we are also waiting and wondering if we have to prepare for a wave of terror.
Strangely, we did not have to wait long for a new body to be delivered (you have to shudder at the cold-blooded pretense that the earlier delivery of another body was just a “mistake”). It was quickly identified as Shiri.
And what about Saturday’s transfer? What about the storm and the potential for snow? We count hours and then minutes.
As of this writing, all six have been returned. Four had been taken on October 7; the other two have been held for around a decade in separate incidents.
Next week, four more bodies will be returned, which completes the first stage of the ceasefire. This will leave 59 hostages in Gaza, 32 of them are likely dead.
And then we wait again. Will the second stage of the ceasefire go forward? Will Hamas release all the hostages at once? Or in our hope for peace, do we prepare for war again?
The Waiting Place is awful for all of us, but it is sheer hell for the hostages and their families. In the limbo between Hope and Devastation, we cannot move forward. May we find our way out soon and find the strength to heal.
*This is not the place for gory details of the horrors of their captivity and execution. There are others who bear witness and carry the burden of the awful details.








